Today I’m rebooting my writing habit after taking a few days off while we were on the road for Seattle Pride.  I planned to take a break on those days.  I had noticed that the habit was starting to feel easier, so I judged that the break would not be fatal to the habit.

I was reflecting in a conversation today about how different it is for me as a tutor to work with families who already support habits compared to those who don’t.  Last year I worked with a learner who played piano and whose mother I gathered supported her regular practice.  It was easy for her to add a new habit of working on her math curriculum daily and as a result she moved through the material very quickly.  This was despite the fact that she had medium to low interest level in math.

On the other side, I’m working with a learner who finds math quite enjoyable, but who is struggling to work on it as regularly as he would like to.  We are experimenting with habit formation strategies to see what works for him.  I think it’s a valuable process for him to go through, as he’ll be able to use what he learns in many areas of life.  But not already having that habit program online ready to reproduce for a new endeavor has limited his pace over the years.  (Despite that, he has a high skill level and ready intuition in math, I think due to his high interest level).

I was remembering back to how my mom dealt with swim practice when I was growing up. Whenever I would complain that I didn’t want to go she would remind me that I had the option of quitting at the end of the month, but that since we had signed up and paid for it, skipping practice was not an option.  She would remind me that I always had fun once I got there.  I very rarely missed practice and as a result achieved a high level of success.  My achievements reinforced my commitment to regularly attending practice and to working my hardest while there.

I think people perceived me as completely internally motivated and probably didn’t pick up on how my mom was supporting me in this way.  I was certainly in a different mindset than some of my teammates whose parents pushed them to continue swimming despite their desire to quit.  And of course my experience was also softer from those teammates who were inconsistent in attending practice, for whatever reason.

The key, as is often the case, seems to be finding that sweet spot between too much choice and too little.  Between too much structure and too little.  It can seem great to be free to do whatever you feel like doing all the time.  But isn’t one way to achieve that to train yourself to want to do the things that support your goals?

I recently uploaded the first episode of my new podcast “Teacher Trade”.  I had to push through a bit of a learning curve getting Audacity to do what I wanted, but by the end I found the editing process to be kind of fun.

In this post I’ll talk a little about my concept for the podcast and how I came up with the idea.

In one of his TED talks Ken Robinson tells the story of a dancer who discovers that there are other people in the world like her who have to move to think.  I find that I’m the sort of person who sometimes has to talk to think.  At times, when I’ve needed to work through a lesson plan idea, I’d call up my parents and just sort of think at them for a half hour or an hour.  Thankfully, they are the sort of parents who happily put up with this sort of behavior.

This self-knowledge was useful, but the break-through came after I became familiar with the practice of co-counseling.  In the practice, people trade off holding space for one another to facilitate emotional discharge and healing.  (If you’re curious about the practice here’s the website for Allies, the organization I’m involved with).  The thought struck me that emotional discharge wasn’t the only thing I could use a trading partner for.  Trading time to talk about lesson planning, and think through my learning process about my work with students would be a great deal for me.

So, the idea for Teacher Trade was hatched.  Plus, even though I’m trying not to take on extra projects while I focus on launching Pixidoku, I figured that this is something I would gain efficiency from.  The thinking would have to get done one way or another, but this way I could share it with another person and other teachers who want to listen to us thinking aloud.

I hope that it might become a larger collaborative project with many teachers sharing their thought processes about their teaching.  Let me know if you would be interested in doing an episode with me, or hosting one of your own!

I’m done with my lesson planning projects for the school year, so with a little more time on my hands its time to start a new habit I’ve been looking forward to acquiring for a while.  I want to write at least a little bit every day.

I’m doing a few things to set myself up for success.

I waited to get started on my habit until I knew I would have time every day to devote to it.  Habits are hardest in the first couple weeks, so it’s important to minimize other difficulties.  Being pressed for time makes it harder to stick to a habit early on.

I also made sure that I can easy log in to my blog from both my tablet and my computer.  I ended up having to put a little time and effort into this because my password manager wasn’t working quite right.  But I went ahead and did that extra step today because I know that having flexibility will also be important in the early weeks of forming my habit.  If it’s hard to log in to my blog on my tablet that’s one more internal excuse that will make it more difficult to stick to my habit.

I’m starting a simple tracking system for my habit so I can see my progress and get that little psychological reward every time I stick to my habit.  It’s on my small paper notepad that I take everywhere so it is always handy and always easy to scribble in.  Every day that I write I’ll draw a little star on that day’s box. When I drew today’s star I let myself enjoy how it felt and colored it in with pencil to make it look all nice. Yay for stars!  I put a big circle around the 28th day.  That’s about how long habits take to form so I know if I stick to it until then it will get easier.

There is so much I want to write about all the time, but currently I don’t write regularly at all.   I can’t wait to be writing all the things!  Hooray for successfully completing day one.

I’d love to hear from you in the comments.  What habits have you formed purposefully?  What works for you?  What is hard?